When planning your wedding you consider the colors for your gowns, tuxedos, and the decorations including flowers. You decide upon the ceremony you desire and if you choose to use the Unity Ceremony, you will need three candles.

The Unity Ceremony begins as your guests arrive. Two small candles are lit in the ceremony area with one larger candle remaining unlit between the smaller candles. Normally the unlit and larger candle is placed higher than the others.

There are other variations in which the first guest is given a candle that is lit by the head usher and each guest lights their candle until all gusts have a lit candle. The Mother of the Bride is normally the last guest and from her candle the Best Man lights his candle and those of the men in the wedding party, then lights the two smaller candles. The ceremony is ready to begin. Using candles in this way brings everyone together as part of your wedding.

As the Ceremony begins and as the two are joined as one, a predetermined point is chosen when the Bride and Groom together light the middle or larger candle and extinguishing the other two as a sign they have joined together. At this point the gusts, if you have them holding a lit candle, extinguish theirs leaving only one lit candle showing the Unity of the couple in their bond of marriage.

Imagination plays a part in your wedding plans. If you were going to use the Unity Ceremony perhaps you would like your wedding to have the aromatic effect as well as the sight effect. Using the scented candles either placed along the sides of the seating area or as your gift to your guests as mentioned to include them in the ceremony will fill the room or chapel with the scents you desire. With all the candles being lit as the ceremony begins, it will be remembered long after you have headed out on your new life's journey.

In choosing candles it is best to coordinate the scent you desire with the flowers you have decided upon. Secondly you want the colors of the candles also to blend with the flower colors of your choice. The idea is to fill the room or chapel with your desired sight and aromatic aura to help your guest to remember your wedding.

If you choose to give guests a candle, to be part of your Wedding Unity Ceremony, you also just gave them a special wedding favor that will remind them of your wedding. As long as that candle lasts, your wedding will be remembered. The scent will remind them. You will be in their thoughts. It's a wonderful way to thank them for being a part of your wedding.

Wedding planning is the key. You must decide if you wedding budget can support the idea of giving a candle as a wedding favor, or just having them along the side of the seating area. You can count on at least a dollar for each candle to give to your guests if you choose to give them one making them a part of your wedding. Or if the thought of candles being risky during your ceremony, that could be your wedding favor give at the reception as a place setting, or which every way you decide upon to give them a special thank you for being present.

Making your wedding perfect is your goal. If you want to add the special aromatic scent or just add to the scent of your flowers, candles can make that happen for you. Just maybe that little candle you give will also spark a little romance in each of your guests' life. When they have gone home and light the candle you gave them, well you think on that a second. You want your joy to be passed to them as well. Your day joined with others all sharing in the feelings that only people in love understand. What a way to say thanks.

You can also add the aromatic candles within your reception to continue that special feeling from your wedding ceremony. Combining sights, sounds, and aromatic conditions will make your reception very memorable for everyone, and mostly for you.

It's your wedding. Fill it with the senses you will remember all your life. Remember to have someone save your Unity Ceremony Candles. Two you can light just to remember your day, and one to be your Anniversary Candle!


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