You as the groom will want to choose a few men to carry out the responsibilities that are traditionally assigned to male. You may want to choose your best friend, your college buddies, and maybe even your brother to do it. You should know that they are not only there for formalities sake but they do have responsibilities as well and you should be the one to tell them about it.
The first person you should tell about his responsibilities is the best man or the head groomsman. You should tell him that his role is very important so the wedding will go on smoothly. The best man is simply an all-in-one guy who is your friend, your organizer, your coach, your confidant and your advisor who basically has a lot of responsibilities.
The best man is also the man who will encourage you whenever you feel stressed out during the planning and the preparation of the wedding. He is also responsible for organizing the bachelor party and makes sure of the travel arrangement for the bride and groom.
It is unavoidable that there will sometimes be problems before or during the wedding. The best man is responsible to find a solution for it. Like, when the flowers haven't arrived yet, he is responsible to make sure that the flowers arrive on time before the wedding ceremonies.
He should also supervise the groomsmen and ushers during the wedding and should accompany them to the tailor for fitting of their formal attires. The best man is also responsible for the safekeeping of the ring, safekeeping of the marriage license just before the wedding, is the official witness to the vows, and is responsible for the clergyman's fee.
The best man is also the one to make the first toast in the wedding party and he should make it sweet and short.
The others, the groomsmen and the ushers, serves as the assistant to the best man. They are like the hospitality committee responsible for greeting the guests and escort them to the church and also greet guests in the wedding party.
The ushers will also be responsible taking the guests to their respective seats in the wedding party. They will be the one to guide the guests around the reception room and accompany them until they reach their table and are comfortable.
These are some of the things you should know about. You are not the only one who will handle every single detail about the wedding. These people are your friends and they are the few good men who will get you through your big day that can be frustrating, exhausting and sometimes nerve-racking.
You can show your appreciation to your groomsmen, best man, and ushers by giving them a small token of thanks, like cuff links, studs, or if you can afford it, monogrammed shirts.
Always remember that these men are there to help you and they are not only there for formality's sake. You should tell them that this honor will come with responsibilities. You should make it clear to them what their responsibilities are, what they should do and what you expect them to do.
Weddings are one of the most memorable occasions in a man's life and sometimes also one of the most nerve-racking experiences. So, if you want it to go smoothly, be sure to tell your chosen few good men about their duties and responsibilities.
Your bride will never be happier if the wedding goes smoothly as planned.