You and your groom can stretch your creative minds when choosing your groom's cake. You should have fun with it!

Traditionally, the groom's cake was meant to be carried home by guests. For this reason, it was made with durable ingredients such as fruit. Yes, all grooms cakes were once fruitcakes! Unmarried females would actually sleep with their piece of cake! They reportedly would dream of the man they were supposed to marry!

Guess what? You do not have to follow tradition anymore! It's safe to say that your women guests will most likely forgo sleeping with a piece of your groom's cake!

Today, groom's cakes come in all shapes and sizes. So, how do you decide on your groom's cake? Here are a few suggestions:

1. Ask your groom's advice. The final decision may ultimately be yours, but at least ask him his opinion before you throw down money on it. You probably do not want to end up with a groom's cake that the groom will hate.

2. Go bold! Consider bold cake flavors such as a rich chocolate fudge torte, red velvet or tiramisu that will complement your wedding cake.

3. Consider various cake flavors. Be open-minded about cake flavors. Consider these great cake flavors: hazelnut, pumpkin, coconut cream, almond, banana walnut and carrot to name a few.

4. Make a statement with fillings. Pleasantly surprise your guests with fillings such as praline, peanut butter, Irish cream, coffee or cappuccino!

5. To theme or not to theme. Your groom wants a cake that resembles a large mouth bass and you are not thrilled with the idea of a fish near your wedding cake! What do you do?

You could just give in and give him what he wants. However, if the idea is just eating you away consider offering the grooms cake at the rehearsal dinner instead of the reception where only your close family and friends will see it! If the budget allows consider having two cakes - the fish cake can be for the rehearsal dinner and the cake of your choice could be for the reception.

A bit of advice - try not to make the grooms cake a source of contention. When everything is said and done you will most likely feel regret for causing a rift between you and your husband over a cake.

6. Groom's cake ideas. Two tiered cake with chocolate frosting adorned with chocolate covered strawberries and greenery, a tuxedo, a shirt and tie, John Deere logo or tractor, deer, a sports ball, the logo of his favorite sports theme, his company logo, a musical instrument, his favorite pet, a cake in the shape of his name, a cake in the shape of the state where he is from. The idea here is to be as creative as you wish!

7. Do not leave the table out. The table that the grooms cake sits on should be decorated as well. You could use greenery, fabric or strawberries. You could also use items that have meaning to the groom such as a childhood photo.

8. Cost saving tips.

- Save money by purchasing your wedding cake and your groom's cake from the same bakery. Ask if they will offer you a discount.

- Have someone make the grooms cake for you.

- Make it a sheet cake. Sheet cakes are less expensive than tiered cakes.

- Pay someone to bake and frost a cake, but ask a friend or family member to decorate it for you.

- Skip the grooms cake altogether. There is no rule book that says you have to have a groom's cake.

Have fun choosing your grooms cake. Be creative and offer your guests a unique cake experience. Whichever cake you choose it should be a reflection of you and your groom's personality. Have fun with it and it will be a great addition to your wedding!